Have you ever wondered what drives or inspires you to exercise? Or maybe a better question is, what should inspire you to exercise? I believe most people have subconscious reasons that drive them to eat well, exercise and look their best. I recently had a conversation with a friend about my personal training and the amount of time I put into that particular area of life. It is interesting how each and every one of us has a different definition of success, and most of all, put certain areas of our lives in a certain list of importance or priority.
Growing up my parents put the majority of their time towards two areas of life. For my father it was work and family. For my mother it was family and taking care of the house, as I define in my book (organizational discipline). I don’t believe that having a certain area of life in any particular order is right or wrong. It all depends on how one person defines or perceives success or happiness. For my friend… he worked for a company which gave him certain hours to be home at 3pm, allowing him to be with his three kids. Having dinner as a family and working those hours made him happy, very similar to my father. His wife stays home and has her own clients that come to the house. She also gets paid to watch some other kids before and after school, besides their own three children. So she is busy, very similar to my mother who raised and took care of five children. They very rarely exercise, and if they do it is for a limited time and is not their first priority.
So going back to the conversation… my friend kind of “challenged” me on the time I invest in my training. In a round about way he called me selfish and thought that there is more to life then having “abs.” I listened and wanted to understand his point of view, but I would be a complete liar if I said that I wasn’t totally pissed off at his comment. But I had great self control 🙂 and wanted to see where he was coming from. It helped me realize that each of us have different reasons why we do certain things in life and why we put certain activities, habits or people in a certain priority. My friend, much like my father, has a tremendous amount of potential and could open his own business… just like my father could have too. But they both decided to work for someone else so they could be home in time for dinner with their family. I respect that and am grateful that my parents both made that sacrifice. I am different. I am an entrepreneur and wanted to own my businesses. I am typically not home in time to have dinner with my family, but my wife and I have morning tea with our kids every day before school. So we make up for that time in the morning while most people leave for work early in the morning.
So is it vanity or vitality? I would say both because personally I want and need to look fit for what I do for a living. But living a long healthy and vital life is a priority to me. I want to live to see my grandchildren and great grandchildren. I have more people to inspire and help… there are more places I want to see and visit. We have only one life to live and I personally want to maximize my experience within my lifetime. Training is also a stress relief for me. I operate eight companies and most days I have a ton of things going through my mind. If I don’t train, I will go crazy. I also need to have what I call business stamina. Which means that I need to operate at a super high level for long periods of time. I continuously say that I am going to live to be over 100 years old and be fit, vital, vibrant, and of course have all my marbles. But in the end… it comes down to WHY you exercise and your personal motivators and reasons to live a healthy lifestyle.
I came up with something called T.A.G. What does it stand for? Triggers. Accountability. Goals.
Triggers
What is a trigger? It is something that drives you. It is your driving force, or why you do something. Training, eating well and exercise is something that is extremely important to me. I want my children to be healthy, fit and eat wisely. I truly want to inspire them to live a healthy and active
My original martial arts instructor died very young, I believe we was in his early fifties. He was not in shape; he was overweight and didn’t take care of himself. At one point he was a National Tae Kwon Do champion but he stopped living a healthy lifestyle. I watched his wife close their martial arts business soon after he died. I now see my grandmaster who is almost 70 years old. He is a strict vegetarian, meditates hours a day and physically trains like he’s in his twenties. As I am writing this blog post, he is in Korea training with his master on his quest for enlightenment. That is inspiring to me… that drives me. One trigger is based on fear and the other, inspiration. These are some of my triggers that keep me exercising and living my lifestyle.
Accountability
My wife wakes up every day at 5am to train. She meets my younger sister and they work out together. Now, don’t get me wrong, there have been days that she has gotten a text from my sister saying she’s not going, and then stayed in bed relieved. For the most part… meeting someone or having a scheduled appointment forces you to wake up early and work out. That is why hiring a coach or trainer is extremely powerful. Even though I consider myself to be a fitness professional and even a coach, I still hire a trainer twice a week and schedule fitness classes into my calendar. I also schedule days to meet my staff and partner Chris Berlow to do our martial arts training. Scheduling and meeting other people helps hold us accountable. Recently I have been having my coaching clients email me every morning when they wake up. We call it the “Uncommon Club.” The objective is to wake up before 6am to exercise or work out. I typically wake up around 5- 5:15am during the week to meditate, and I now have a couple of clients who are beating me to the clock and emailing me before I email them. If they don’t email me, I send an email out asking them if they are common or uncommon? One of my clients emailed me last week, but it was after 6am. I responded by telling him that that he didn’t make the uncommon club. The next day he woke up at 5:00am and beat me to the email. It is cool to have that accountability to be inspired to wake up and exercise before arriving to the office.
Goals
I believe having something to work towards will keep us inspired and on track to continue the lifestyle. This year I registered for a half marathon and a Ragnar Relay race, which is a team of people who run over 200 miles over a two day period. It is crazy but so much fun. My wife turned 40 this year, so as a gift I hired a personal trainer and it includ
In any event, the bottom line is to understand why you either exercise or why you should exercise. Whether you want to look great at 40, want to be an inspiration for your children, change the way your family lives their life, or live to see your great grandchildren. Understand what drives you and get someone to be accountable to and set goals. My mindset is, if I don’t exercise or eat well, I die. It is like breathing. So screw everyone else and get up off your ass and live a healthier lifestyle!
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Master Paul Melella Jr.
Tips from this article
- Understand or define why you exercise or why you should exercise.
- Find a friend, hire a trainer or make appointments for scheduled classes or work outs for accountability.
- Set reasonable fitness goals to inspire you and something to work towards.